Date #1 Ashley Sequel?

Update

After discussing the events of Hurricane Ashley with my friends and Dating Coach, the decision was made that if Ashley was going to receive a second chance, it would have to be at a neutral location with a lot of people. Yes, I said it; a good friend of mine self proclaimed herself as my dating coach. Hey, who am I to argue with a woman that has no problem giving me her opinion. Otherwise, I was instructed to inform her that, “I had a great time, but a friendship with you would be safer.”

I sent her a good morning text and left it at that. I chose not to text her again until I heard back from her. This goes against everything I would normally do. This is where most Nice Guys would go absolutely nuts, not hearing from someone after a date. I am talking from personal experience, not an observation. Nice Guys will always go above and beyond to communicate with a woman they are interested in. When women see this, it usually gives off a vibe of insecurity or a lack of confidence. My opinion on this is, the "Nice Guy" pushes women too hard to get constant reassurance. Women, on the other hand, do not have the patience or the desire to have to constantly reassure a man of their position.

So, I listened to the advice of my friends, and we all know hard it is to heed such advice. Why? Well, it is usually because we hate the answers they give us. I continue my day knowing there is really nothing I can do except wait. I get a text from her around three in the afternoon. I chose to begin the conversation by reassuring her that I respected her position on slowing down. I asked her if she wanted to start over and try a real date this time. The next text message I receive is, “You came on too strong.” I responded with, “I have a bad habit of doing that, but you did also.”

After some more texting we agreed to try for Friday. As the conversation continued throughout the day, she started all over again, hitting on me and wanting more. This is the same thing that happened yesterday. Now, I am starting to feel like a booty call or something and that is just not going fly. I changed the subject and asked her where she wanted to see the movie. She recommends downtown at one of the really popular theaters. Since I have never been there, I agree to the idea. Then she hits me with a curve ball. I never saw this coming. She throws out the idea of a night on the town, followed by getting a hotel room, and ordering room service while sitting in a Jacuzzi tub. I was mistaken to think that she was joking. Apparently, she was not. Here are the next few texts in conversation format for your enjoyment.

Me: That is a bit pricey... We can do some of it.

Ashley: Pricey huh?

Me: Yeah, you want a room with a Jacuzzi in it…

Ashley: They are $150 tops; I did not mean a suite.

Ashley: I thought you were a guy who takes care of his girls.

Me: I do emotionally and physically, but I do not throw money at them.

Ashley: I thought you were a guy with money… My Bad!

This pretty much ended the conversation as well as any notion of a future date. I am, by no means, materialistic and I will not be with someone who puts so much demand on being pampered like that on a second date. This ended the conversation between Ashley and me. She needs a friend more than she needs a booty call, so I offered to be a friend and listen to her, nothing more...

After discussing these final events, one of my friends decided to recite the ancient proverb "Well you know, Nice Guys always finish last". I replied, "In this case apparently Nice Guys don't get to finish at all." Of course we all get a good laugh out of each other's misfortunes; this time it was most definitely my turn.